I have termed this as "A Problem" because the problem is a real problem and that until now, I am not sure what to title it. This story is about my observation of a student and how she relates to me about her life. (As I have always mentioned, all names have been altered and they are by no means to insult anyone just to remind everyone not to fall into this trap)
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D is about 19 years old now, just finished her diploma course. I met her while she was studying. Many a times, I wanted to know more about her, but she kept on delaying it. She said, I would not understand her. Finally one day, we sat down and we talked.......
D comes from a quite well to do family, both her parents are working. She has 3 older sisters and she is the youngest in the family. When she was young she was looked after by her god mother, who is the mother's sister. When she grew older, her mother brought her back home to the house. She noticed that the 3 older sisters didn't want to communicate much with her. Even her father only talked to her on "official grounds." D started to mix around and met W in a party. W showered D with a lot of attention. D liked this as she didn't have that at home. W on the other hand, took opportunity of this. To cut the story short, D has had 2 abortions already and D's parents are unaware of this situation. D told me, if the parents knew, they would "kill" her.
Anyway, D got tired of W as she always had to give in to W and W was starting to mentally abuse her by saying how useless she is. D met G at the college. G was slightly better than W. D thought G was her true love. Well, G was only good in getting rid of W for D. After a short while, G left D, saying that they were not compatible. 2 months later, G asked D for forgiveness and asked to be together again. I told D that she is asking for trouble. This time round, D was smarter but D also cherished the hope that G will take her again. What G wanted was, D's car. G used D's car to move around town. Infact, G used D's car to go out with another girl!
So finally, D and G broke up, this time for good (I hope). Anyway, about 2 days ago, D called me and said that she was in the hospital. I asked D whether her parents knew about it, she said no. I was thinking to myself, what has happened to this family, are they communicating? When do children and their parents talk to each other?
D comes from a quite well to do family, both her parents are working. She has 3 older sisters and she is the youngest in the family. When she was young she was looked after by her god mother, who is the mother's sister. When she grew older, her mother brought her back home to the house. She noticed that the 3 older sisters didn't want to communicate much with her. Even her father only talked to her on "official grounds." D started to mix around and met W in a party. W showered D with a lot of attention. D liked this as she didn't have that at home. W on the other hand, took opportunity of this. To cut the story short, D has had 2 abortions already and D's parents are unaware of this situation. D told me, if the parents knew, they would "kill" her.
Anyway, D got tired of W as she always had to give in to W and W was starting to mentally abuse her by saying how useless she is. D met G at the college. G was slightly better than W. D thought G was her true love. Well, G was only good in getting rid of W for D. After a short while, G left D, saying that they were not compatible. 2 months later, G asked D for forgiveness and asked to be together again. I told D that she is asking for trouble. This time round, D was smarter but D also cherished the hope that G will take her again. What G wanted was, D's car. G used D's car to move around town. Infact, G used D's car to go out with another girl!
So finally, D and G broke up, this time for good (I hope). Anyway, about 2 days ago, D called me and said that she was in the hospital. I asked D whether her parents knew about it, she said no. I was thinking to myself, what has happened to this family, are they communicating? When do children and their parents talk to each other?
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